Superwoman

I was blackberry-ing with one of my girlfriends a couple days ago talking about we, woman having to lead a relationship because our spouse is unorganized, ignorant etc.

If a relationship was a ship, i use to be the captain of it during courtship with my husband. Because he showed less attention and seemed ignorant to details, i stereotyped it as an incompetency to lead. This resulted to many arguments during our four years relationship.

Then, up to a point i realized the hidden truth. I remember i was so fed up with having to take control of things and appear to be more matured that i locked myself to pray and whine to God about everything. While flipping the bible, i came across to read: The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." Genesis 2:18

A helper - It seemed like God has highlighted that particular word for me. We, women, are not more but no less than a man's helper. Think about this, logically, who is greater? The one seeking or being helped or the helper? Of course, the helper. Since then, i interpreted my role as a man's advisor, assistant, and a helping hand.

Next, think about this. A president and his advisor. Who gives him the understanding of which action to take? The advisor. But who gets the credit for good decisions made by the president himself? The advisor? Nope, the president. The same thing applies in relationship. We just have to let our man or husbands take credit for what we thought was wise and told him to do. Never try to go over his head and be the master instead.

When i started implementing this theory, i felt tortured, because i knew at some point he was making a bad decision but i just had to close an eye and let him do so instead of insisting my way and proving him wrong in the end. We went through tough times as a result of the decisions he made BUT because i showed trust in him and be supportive, he came to his senses that he has to mark my words too!

Most men learn from mistakes. They do not know that a fall hurts unless they fell down. Absolutely, they do not learn from women nagging, telling them what not to do and warnings!